Divorce, like football, has rules and procedures that must be followed by all players. For example, in order to get legally divorced you and your spouse must file and serve the appropriate legal forms and provide the court with particular information.
Divorce, like football, has traditional venues where games are played. The most commonly used venues in divorce are courtrooms, but divorces also may play out in lawyers’ conference rooms, mediator’s offices or, if you are representing yourself, at the kitchen table or coffee shop.
Divorce, like football, has a team of players, who can get bumped and bruised in the game. These may include you, your spouse, and perhaps, your children.
Divorce, like football usually involves a host of other participants including lawyers, divorce coaches, accountants, therapists, vocational evaluators, judges, and mediators.
Divorce, like football, requires players to think on their feet and often, under intense pressure.
Divorce, like football, may require players to rely on others for their expertise. For example, in complex cases players may need the guidance of an attorney or legal strategist who has years of on-the-field experience, which is used to help players develop strategies for accomplishing goals and sometimes, out-maneuvering the opposition.
Divorce, like football, doesn’t always turn out as planned (power outages) or as hoped (Baltimore beats San Francisco by a few points).
Divorce, like football, can test a player’s strength and endurance and is perfect fodder for self-growth.
Divorce, like football, can cause a player to find fault with her performance in hindsight or lead her to acknowledge that she did the best she could, given the circumstances and that is good enough. (Yes, girls play football too.)
Divorce, like football, ends and life goes on so players know that no matter how hard the game, how bruised the psyche, in time, she can feel invigorated, alive, and blessed.
Football. It is a lot like divorce. How can you best participate in the game?
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From my soul to yours,
Helene L. Taylor, Esq.
Attorney, Author, Legal Strategist.
Founder of The Modern Woman’s Divorce Guide